Getting out of a Toxic relationship
With rampant awareness about domestic abuse, it is important that everyone knows what toxic relationships are. Hang on tight as we'll be discussing everything you need to know about being in and getting out of a toxic relationship.
What is a toxic relationship?
While toxic isn't hard to define, the phrase 'Toxic relationship' is quite a lot. A toxic relationship encompasses relationships where partners find themselves playing dysfunctional roles filled with hurt, unstable dynamics, and often abuse.
While it is normal for relationships to have ups and downs, toxic relationships drag down the morale, love, trust, and comfort affected parties have in themselves and others.
Signs your relationship is getting toxic
Relationships are the bane of human existence, so it is easy to get lost amid passion, romance, and opinions. Perfect relationships do not exist but ideal relationships do and do not feature toxicity. Here are 4 major signs that denote that your relationship is getting toxic
1. Resentment: Couples in toxic relationships find a sense of resentment in their approach towards themselves. The inherent sense of despair and negativity that comes with being in the same space is almost palpable in a toxic relationship. Resentment is caused by the inability of a toxic partner to be accountable, caring, and understanding. This always leaves a sad taste of hate towards their partners.
2. Tensed conversations: An indicator of a toxic relationship are the frequent tensed conversations. These types of conversations are filled with miscommunication, dishonesty, gaslighting, and the feeling of walking on broken eggs between couples.
3. Emotional dependency: A huge but frequently ignored sign of a toxic relationship is emotional dependency. An emotionally dependent partner finds themselves jealous, insecure, controlling, and unable to take accountability for their actions.
4. Abuse: It's common to see couples in toxic relationships get abusive. This is because abuse is a reaction to the lack of understanding between the partners. They see each other as against one another and ultimately resort to emotional and physical abuse as means of self-expression of their frustrations.
How to manage a toxic relationship
A toxic relationship can change. But the choice to change can not be by one partner. A relationship is a two-person job and needs all hands on deck to work. These tips point out the major influences that can help change a toxic relationship for the better.
1. Communicate with Compassion: Miscommunication is a big problem in relationships. While learning to rebuild, opening your heart to your partner's point of view might make you understand their reasoning, approach, and the best way to reassure them on working with things.
2. Individual Work: Some parts of healing as a couple should be done as different individuals. Taking time to indulge in sessions that help you become an accountable individual goes a long way in helping you become a better partner.
3. Forgive Wholly: Toxic relationships are hurtful to overcome the pain, guilt, and hurt. One of the most vital steps would be to approach each other with a sense of forgiveness towards the harm caused and the hurt endured.
4. Getting Professional Help: Getting outside help in a relationship can go a long way in helping to communicate better, rebuild toxic habits firm, and ultimately become a better partner. Interventions such as couples therapy by skilled professionals help understand the human psyche and its revered approach.
Getting out of a toxic relationship
Not all relationships work out and that is perfectly fine. When the appropriate resolution to a toxic relationship is to end it, especially for your safety.
If you experience domestic abuse in your relationship, you can reach out to the empathy space for resources, help, and assistance.