Ada’s Failed Marriage Story
Updated: Aug 23, 2020
Ada woke up on the morning of June 30th and decided that she had had enough!
Fueled by this assertion, she packed a small bag, called her travel agent to book
a mini vacation at Cape Verde, few days later, she got on the plane and never
Before she left, she left instructions for her lawyers to get in touch with Philip – her
husband of 5 years – to serve him the divorce papers. She flinched inwardly when
the seemingly insensitive way of discarding a marriage of 5 years hit her. She was,
however, consoled when she thought of all the abuse she endured throughout
the marriage; it was as though Philip lived to make her feel miserable. She had no
idea how her Cinderella love story became sour.
Ada had always known exactly what she wanted from life and how to get it. From
when she clocked 8, watching the 7pm news with her parents, she made up her
mind to become a journalist, so she can be on TV like the lady reading the news.
From that moment, up till she got to secondary, she represented her school at
every debate competition and brought home the winning prize. She was the head
of the School’s Press Club and subsequently the head prefect. Ada and her three
sisters were raised to believe that being a girl does not mean less opportunities
and the world was their oyster. Her dad was a successful medical doctor and was
at the forefront of finding a lasting solution to the malaria menace in Africa while
her mom was an award winning economist and top executive of the World Bank.
She got into the university to study Mass Communication immediately after
graduation and her years in school were a blur of classes, field trips, debate and
speaking competitions and her internship at one of the leading TV stations in
Lagos. By the time she was 22, she was one of the most sought-after journalists in
the country with more than a few awards under her belt with a Masters Degree to
She met Philip at one of the events she covered for her station. He was one of the
panelists at the Convention of Under 40 CEOs hosted by a top pan-African
company. She was intrigued by his history; how he rose from nothing to become
one of the most sought-after Tech gurus in the country. She was waiting in line
for small chops after the event when he walked up to her and asked if she was
free to go out for drinks. They got married exactly six months after.
Problems started when he made few investment choices and his company greatly
suffered, plunging it into a spiral of bankruptcy and debts. He had to close down
the company and sold the property to pay off the liability. It took its toll on their
marriage and he went from the caring, loving man to being short tempered, loud
and he was usually drunk by 12 noon. He started complaining about her work
hours and subsequently commanded her to quit her job, she obliged because
they had saved enough to last for a few years and frankly wanted Philip to go
back to the man of her dreams.
Events unfortunately went from bad to worse, she tried to be understanding at
first but when he started to flog Craig, their 3 year-old son, with belt and rope,
she decided that it was time to get help for her marriage. Philip, however, never
showed up for any of the sessions and Ada went from being a confident,
successful journalist to a recluse of her old self.
She saw an Instagram post on the importance of having a sound mental health
and it spoke to everything that was wrong in her life. She had always put Philip
first and she decided that it was time to pay attention to her own health too. She
sent them a message and requested to see Dr. Kafayah, the therapist in charge
of the Instagram page.
Few weeks later, she started seeing life differently and even tried to get Philip to
see the therapist too, she wasn’t surprised when he didn’t. He had slipped into
denial and had become a big ball of nerves and there seemed to be violence
lurking nearby when he was around. She took Craig to her parent’s on the guise
of summer holiday and tried to decide what the next step was. The decision to
end the marriage came easily, the day Philip brought home a lady, when she
confronted him, he threatened to stab her and end her life.
When she got back from her Cape Verde vacation, she moved to the Country's
capital to avoid the many questions from people she knew she wasn’t ready for.
She started a vacation planning company and had high-paying clients within the
few months of starting, Kunle was one of her first clients and they clicked
immediately. He treated her right and even had no problems about her being a
single mum. They got married two years after the day they first met on a sunny
In this picture, Ada unapologetically carries out her traditional marriage rites for a second time in her lifetime, adorned in a beautiful attire. Life indeed gives amazing second chances.